Stop Wishing For Things To Be Different
“It’s easy to get lost in endless speculation. So today, release the need to know why things happen as they do. Instead, ask for the insight to recognize what you’re meant to learn.” – Caroline Myss
I’ve been giving a lot of thought to acceptance lately. I’ve been doing more yoga than usual, and while I love it, moving my body into downward dogs and chaturangas and other poses that call for hands to be pressed flat into the ground, automatically makes me wish that my left hand would go back to normal.
As a result of the chemo I had on my arm four years ago, my left hand and arm is pretty damaged. I have next to no strength in it and my left middle finger is fused at the knuckle and curled over into my palm. Hence why I don’t like flat-handed yoga postures. I simply can’t do them, and it leaves me feeling incredibly frustrated.
On top of that, each year around this time I usually find myself wishing for things to be different. I wish that I could swim in the ocean (a no-no for Gerson Therapy people). While I don’t like to admit it, seeing as I preach the wellness word so strongly, I also wish that I could celebrate the holidays and new year with a few drinks. I wish that I could eat, drink and be festively merry with all of my friends. But I can’t. My desire to be loyal to the healthiest, best version of me is far stronger than my desire to get hammered.
Wishing for things to be different is pointless. More than that, it’s counter-productive. While we’re busy wishing things to be different, we are missing the point of why things are the way they are. You see, there is magic in our circumstances. Everything in our lives is there for a particular reason. Surrendering to the reasons and responding to the messages and calls is not only our job; it makes life a heck of a lot more enjoyable.
This conversation is not to be confused with “giving up” and becoming complacent. That’s a whole other kettle of fish. You can notice the difference just by feeling the energy that comes off of those words. “Giving up” feels small and contracted. “Acceptance” feels expansive, free, and like a big sigh of release that ricochets through your body. Can you feel that?
It’s still important to take necessary steps towards our goals, but we need to recognise when it’s time to loosen our grip and be okay knowing that the outcome may look different to how we’re perceiving it. A rigid perception is one of the factors that holds back all of the good stuff that is in store for us.
Be open. Be accepting of what is. Stop with the judgement. I will if you will.
I’m still going to continue visualising my arm strong and pain-free, but I’m going to stop cursing at it every time it holds me back from doing things I think I should be able to do. If nothing else, the restrictions my arm imposes keep me humble, the pain keeps me present, and the scars are signs of the strength my body has shown over the past few years. The fact that my arm is still attached to my body – despite doctors telling me it had to be chopped off – is a constant reminder of my resilience.
And as for being merry this festive season? It’s been just over three years since my last alcoholic drink and I’m smart enough to know that sobriety is what serves me best. I’m accepting that happiness and highs come from within me, and if I need a little extra buzz, there is always raw cacao.
What are you not accepting in your life at the moment? Is there anything you are wishing to be different?
Positive affirmation for the day: I accept that everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be.
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