Why Letting Go Is The Key To Allowing Miracles To Occur
“The wise know that too much doing and a thing won’t get done. The secret to manifesting on the highest level is to find the perfect amount of doing and non-doing to allow the doing to be done. Sometimes much more can be accomplished simply by letting go and trusting.” – Jackson Kiddard
I read the above quote on The Daily Love last week and it pierced right through me. As much as I know and understand what our man Jackson Kiddard is saying, it’s an easy nugget of wisdom to forget. But when we do forget that we ultimately have little control over the exact outcome of our goals, life becomes so much harder.
I firmly believe that the Universe is safe place and that when we collaborate in an appropriate manner, all of my dreams will come true. However, when traction is slower than I would like and it feels like things are stalling, my unchecked mind can wiggle itself into a bit of a tizz. Its like I start mentally grasping at monkey bars that are always that little bit out of reach – unsuccessfully and unnecessarily exerting myself.
I say unnecessarily here because when we struggle – when we try to force control of any situation – it’s like wheels spinning in mud. We do a whole lot of work and don’t get a whole lot of anywhere.
What I’m getting at here is totally counterintuitive to our Westernised ambitious drive. We are doers, creators, and achievers. We work hard to make stuff happen. When things don’t go our way, rarely do we surrender and trust that its going to work our brilliantly anyway. Generally, we get stressed out and work ourselves up over it – which ends up working against us, lowering our vibrational frequency and blocking our attracting powers even more.
Even if we mentally feel like we are ready for something, if it hasn’t shown up for us yet it just means that it is not the time.
There are so many examples of this, but here are some that I have realised in my own life:
+ My health: Every cancer patient’s goal is to be well, and I am no exception. For over four years, getting well has been at the forefront of my mind. In the beginning, especially, I was desperate to be well. I was willing to do absolutely anything it took. It wasn’t until recently, when I spoke with Anita Moorjani about her terminal cancer, near-death-experience, and subsequent healing, that I realised that focusing solely on “getting rid of cancer” was counter productive to my goal. Sure, there was plenty of things that I could do and needed to do to become an empowered participant in my healing. But true healing wouldn’t be realised until I relinquished the tight grip I had on the situation and surrendered to the perfection my path and placed all of my faith in the Universe’s plan.
+ My career: When I was a magazine writer, work was something I loved, but it always felt like a bit of a struggle. I never believed in my talent as a writer, and I felt like the industry I was in was so difficult to get ahead in. I was constantly analysing what my next move needed to be and strategizing exactly what I needed to do to get there. Now, I have 100% faith that as long as I am fulfilling my purpose, being of service and providing as much value to the world as possible, my career and finances will always be looked after.
+ My relationship: Before Tallon, I had major trust issues. I felt like I needed to control how my partner felt about me and how they acted, but this never worked. Clearly. I don’t know whether it is Tallon himself or because I have done so much work on myself since being with him that I completely get how a healthy relationship should be. We can’t control other people, and our partners are not responsible for how we feel. People come into our lives as assignments, and we just need to trust that the Universe will always bring us the right people at the right time. We can’t control the outcome.
The lesson: We cannot control what happens to us. We can only control how we react to what happens to us, but we need to remain open to rolling with the punches rather than clinging to whatever outcome we have idolised in our minds. Whenever you flex your manifestation muscles and start plotting for the realisation of your dreams, always end your requests with “I wish to manifest this or something better.” Always remain open to fact that quite often the Universe has something much better in store for us than we can ever imagine.
Is there something you are hanging on to or trying to control at the moment? Where do you need to let go?
Positive affirmation of the day: I trust that everything is working out in my favour.
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This is a wonderful reminder for me who needs to let loose and let go of control more often! Thank you!
Jess, this is such an amazing post.
I couldn’t agree with you more. This is such a difficult task to do because we have been brought up as “doers”.
From personal experience, the times when I have sat back and given the universe faith, thats when an outcome occurs.
Also accepting that you may not always get what you wanted, the universe can simply says no. They do this because like you said, they have something better in store for us and we need to believe in that.
This is such an important message. I try to focus on my goals with ‘sukshma’ – gentle innocence and easy effortlessness. Holding on to them gently allows so much more space for realization of your dreams. Holding on to them tightly and fiercely is very draining and limiting.
I have been practicing this (not 100% of the time but I’ll get there!) every since I read Spirit Junkie. It feels so good to let go and not be worrying about every move, you do your bit and then the universe will do the rest.
Great message! I too sometimes get so caught up in the result I expect and controlling outcomes and when it doesn’t happen quickly I get frustrated. With work, relationships and life. Thanks for reminding us that it is ok to let go! 
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What a great post, Jess- thank you! I have to say I’ve been very guilty in the past of worrying about all the possible outcomes of situations, so I feel like I’m ‘prepared’ for everything. The truth is that it’s impossible (and exhausting!) to live like this, and so, the best thing to do is just trust in the universe, and know that’s it’s ok to let go. xx
Awesome, Jess. It blows my mind that someone so young can be so wise.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! This has arrived at the perfect time and I can already feel my breath moving more freely in my body from just one read.
With gratitude.
I can totally relate to the feeling of focusing solely on one thing and that working against us. You give the exmaple of being focused solely on “getting rid of cancer”. I have found that in my life being so fixated on getting rid of something meant that the universe was constantly reflecting back to me situations which kept me in that state of “needing to get rid of that thing”! Which of course meant i got stuck there, or as you describe it I would just keep “spinning my wheels”.
My friend put it so logically: “If you fear something strongly enough the universe has no choice but to reflect back to you something that will vibrationally match your fear.”
Love your blog Jess x
Thank you! This makes so much sense, yet I cannot be reminded often enough to relax and let all things happen in their appointed time.
I love this article! A fabulous reminder for us all, thank you so much Jess. xx
Such wise words and very well written. I enjoyed reading every piece of this article.
And I will share, that I too have been holding onto some old ideas that are stopping me from fulfilling my vision. Ideas that I have perceived seem to serve me better than my own dreams. I look forward to sharing more with you about what I’ve uncovered and what I’m developing in the months ahead.
Thanks for such a great post Jess!
Dr Greg Schreeuwer » Thanks so much Greg! I can’t wait to hear about what you’ve got brewing!
Thanks for this Jess, The last 2 weeks have really been a struggle for me, broke up with my partner of 3.5 years, had to move out, and lost a dear friend in a car accident. Last week I was far too focussed on trying to fix everything straight away, and move on as quickly as possible, however over the weekend I just let go and decided everything would fall into place if I just let it. This week, the stars have realigned, and things have seriously started to look up. I found a perfect new place to live with 2 friends in the exact spot I wanted to move 12 months ago, and I have been offered a very rewarding side job to continue to develop my career, so I am very excited that the universe is working back in my favour
Brodie » Sending you so much love Brodie. You are beautiful! xx
This is a fantastic message!! In the past I’ve tried to change things about my partners which would put even more strain on relationships with my current partner I’ve learnt to be be more accepting of my partners differences and other people around me as we are not all the same and we cannot have everyone in the same mindset as we’re all unique. I try and let go of all those scenerios in my head that think what if I did this and what if I done that and just move forward. I have a friend who past away a few years ago and I used to carry so much guilt about her passing. I hadn’t seen her for a while and had all those “what if” scenerios in my head. Her passing still saddens me but I try and just embrace all the good moments we had together.
We are exactly where we are meant to be, otherwise we would be somewhere else! Thank you for the reassuring reminder and perspective Jess.
Thanks Jess, really needed to hear this at the moment. We really need to believe it all works out in our favor and the universe has reasons for events in our lives. Most of all, let us remember that we are safe and taken care of, and hold firm positive beliefs which will perform miracles. Much love, Alex
Beautiful, I adore this post (I LOVE it when you get spiritual on us!). Letting go, releasing and surrendering is the biggest lesson I have learnt so far in life. TRUST is supremely under rated. We live in mind set of chase, earn, reap, get, deserve, achieve, perform, be better, plan! But when we relax and trust, miracles are EVERYWHERE.
Thanks for sharing this message with the world xx
Tara @ Such Different Skies » Ha ha thanks gorgeous! It’s such a happiness-inducing message to truly “get”. xx
Honey, I love this. REALLY LOVE THIS. We’re definitely on the same page at the moment! Real trust, real faith, real letting go is a risk.. but a beautifully rewarding one when we lean in to it. Thank you for the timely reminder + gorgeously thoughtful words (oh and my favourite favourite mantra is “This is something better.” Super powerful) xx
Rach // In Spaces Between » Thanks so much beautiful! We are spooky in synch at the moment. Must be something in the bloggy waters. x
This OR something better I should say 
I completely agree! Since I’ve handed over the reins to the universe in more and more situations, I have been gifted with the most AMAZING outcomes and life my life has become so enriched. Nowadays when there is something that might concern me or that I’m trying to control, I always take a moment to recognise that the outcome is not ultimately in my hands. I do my part- like preparing for a job interview, for example- but I let the outcome go. The result, for me, is absolute unwavering faith in life and each individual’s path. And a sense of really being looked after- funnily enough when you put your faith in the universe, it always delivers! And as you say, it’s always better than anything I could have ever imagined!
Thanks Jess x
This post just ended with me in tears and opened up a HUGE floodgate. Thanks for easing my heart a little x
I’m really hearing this one Jess. Control is a difficult thing to relinquish, especially as you say in our Western world we are brought up to believe that EVERYTHING is in our control – and that means, if there are bumps (in your relationship, career, finances) – that somehow you failed. Somehow you didn’t steer things the way they were suppose too. I think that people carry a lot of condemnation because of that. When I walked away from my career in the Fashion World – people really didn’t understand what the heck I was doing! I left Montreal to pursue a relationship with the man I knew I was suppose to be with. That’s totally crazy in this society – what about my career? Marriage can wait. But I followed my heart and trusted that somehow everything would work out. We’ve been married over 3 years, have a happy healthy baby boy, and now I have the freedom to explore passions I never would have tapped into had I controlled the destiny of my life. This message is a powerful one and a lot of people learn it in the later season of life. I am happy to learn it now and like you, remind myself of it when things seem to be going ”off track”. It’s then that I remember: Who’s track? Who built the track? Is there only one track!? lol…. xo!
Fantastic post Jess – thankyou x
Such a beautiful reminder. One of my favourite quotes from a yoga teacher is “by letting go, all gets done”. Trying to live that right now. x
This is a great message!
I have a dream and I work hard to achieve it, but this creates an ambiance around me when I overdo things. At a point I should stop and get a vacation and forget about my dream. After the vacation I might see my dream from a different perspective.
Thanks!!
Thanks Jess!
The worst thing in a car…rear-view-mirror.
If I may quote Ray Cappo, “Our bodies are changing like the autumn leaf”, and therefore we are a new “being” each and everyday. Yesterday cannot be changed, we can only learn from it to pave our future. Letting go is a difficult trait to master – acknowledge it, accept it occurred, “deal” with it, “throw” it away.
As you end with “I wish to manifest this or something better.”, I start with “I am so happy and grateful now that…” (Thanks to Stuart Zadel).
Cheers
Wonderful words of truth that I so often forget. Thank you for remining me.
There is so much truth in what you are saying Jessica and I can only relate to your words. For years I was hoping for a reconciliation with a man who left me 10 years ago and who did it again in 2011 while I was under cancer treatment. I felt that hoping for a reconciliation had became my purpose and I would not let go. That’s it, it was ”my’, purpose, as if I had nothing else to do in life. I was so wrong and the minute he left me for the second time I heard this little voice inside of me saying ”Do you still want to focus on a reconciliation with this man or on your health?”… I knew that I had to let go of the wrong purpose, even with the Universe still giving me the choice. Only this time, I stepped in the right direction and focused on my health, eating, etc……and got my life and my health back, and even more blessings. I am well aware that doors have always opened in my life, and letting go has finally been a blessing. My purpose in life is set, but I became distracted and since I let go, my purpose came back. Thanks for your message Jess.