Hanging In Your Comfort Zone? 3 Steps To Help You Jump Out

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Posted June 19, 2012


GUEST POST BY CONNIE CHAPMAN.

 

“In this world you’re either growing or you’re dying so get in motion and grow.” – Lou Holtz


Taking steps out of your comfort zone is pivotal for your own evolution and growth. You cannot become a bigger and better version of yourself unless you are willing to stretch beyond what you already know.

Growth facilitates happiness. We experience fulfilment when we grow in ourselves. When we feel that we are progressing, evolving and becoming more, we develop a higher level of confidence and pride. This is what makes us feel alive. This is where the magic happens.


WHAT STOPS US FROM STEPPING OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE?

Our comfort zone is familiar. It is what we know. We can predict how things will unfold, and we have a sense of certainty about our ability to do what is required. It is where we feel safe, secure and not at risk.

When we are outside of our comfort zone, we are in the realm of the unknown. It is uncharted territory and we often have little ability to predict or control what will happen.

The main thing that stops us stepping out of our comfort zone is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what will happen. Fear of losing control. Fear of what people might think. Fear of losing security. The list goes on.

The other thing that stops us is the stories we tell ourselves. We often go in to ‘worst-case scenario’ thinking. We tell ourselves stories of previous experiences where we have failed or looked silly, and convince ourselves it is much safer to just stay where we are.


3 STEPS TO HELP YOU JUMP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE


1. SAY YES, AND THEN FIGURE OUT HOW

Many of us continuously say no to opportunities that are presented which are outside our comfort zone. We may say ‘I could never do that’ without even really contemplating it. Or we use delay tactics and say ‘I am not ready yet. I need to learn more/have more money/have more experience etc. before I do that’

Get in to the habit of saying yes. Even if you have no idea how you are going to do it, just say yes and figure out how later. You are never given more than you can handle. You have attracted this opportunity because you are ready for it. It has been designed to help you grow.


2. MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR FEAR

When we experience the feeling of fear, many of us try to run away from it. We either avoid the actual activity that triggers our fear, or we do whatever we can to suppress the feeling with some other activity such as eating, watching TV, going shopping etc.

When you feel fear, sit with it. Allow yourself to experience it fully and actually determine where it is coming from. Ask yourself “What am I actually afraid of?” “What am I afraid will happen?” “What am I afraid that I will lose?”

Acknowledge your fear for what it is. It is just a feeling. It is just a feeling that has been created by what you are thinking. Once you can see it for what it is, it will lose its power. Being able to be conscious of your fears then gives you the ability to change them.


3. CHANGE YOUR STORY

If you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone, it is likely that you have created negative association with the idea of it. All successful people have found ways to feel positive and excited about stepping out of their comfort zone, rather than afraid and tentative.

Start telling a new story about what it means to live outside your comfort zone. See this situation as an amazing learning and growth opportunity. Feel excited about the fact that you will be becoming a bigger and better person.

Speak kindly to yourself, and love and support yourself unconditionally. Tell yourself positive stories about other times where you have succeeded in challenging situations. Cheer yourself on, and say ‘You can do it” or ‘I believe in you’.

Connect with why it is important for you to take this step. How will doing this help propel you towards your goal? How will it lead you towards the life of your dreams? How will it enable you to achieve everything you have ever wanted?

 

+ What is one thing you can do today, to move you out of your comfort zone, and in to the exciting and thrilling zone of the unknown?

 

Author bio: Connie is transformational life coach, health-food lover and writer of the inspiration-filled blog a life of perfect days. She has a burning passion for empowering others to tap in to their potential and live out their best life. You can read more from Connie at her blog or connect with her on Facebook or Twitter.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Hi Connie,
This is a very encouraging article.
You said “Even if you have no idea how you are going to do it, just say yes and figure out how later.”
I’ve tried this a number of times, and it can be quite exciting. Often the challenge in working out the ‘how’ will bring out the best in us. If challenge = ‘good stress’ then that can be great.
Kind regards, Lyall

Thank you so much for this article. So helpful and I really needed it today.

Great things happen outside our comfort zone!

I really enjoyed reading this.
I couldn’t agree more with what you have written and its just to always be reminded of this.
Asking yourself why are feel fear is a great question to ask yourself to help bring you back into focus.
Lisa x

A fun way to get started is to watch others succeed at stepping out of our comfort zones. It’s safe, entertaining and can be inspiring for those who may be holding back. A great and funny movie on this is Jim Carey’s “Yes Man.”

LOVE your work Connie!! This is exactly what I needed today! Excellent article! :-)

This is an excellent article and I’ve really embraced this feeling lately, even before reading your article! A friend of mine recently invited my to New Zealand and, knowing that I wouldn’t go unless I immediately said yes, we booked straight away. Now I’m off to New Zealand next week and can’t believe how awesome it is that I’m going! I just said ‘Yes’ and figuring out the how has been really fun. Thanks for such an inspiring guest post :)

A fantastic article and just what I needed today! Thanks Connie and Jess! I’ve often been guilty in the past of shying away and not going for things ‘just in case’. As you say, fear’s just a feeling! Thanks so much!

I must admit I feel comfortable in my own comfort zone. It is so safe and easy and you just live your life and enjoy it. I come out of my comfort zone when I’m not pleased with something in my life and I feel I have to do better job to change it.

Coming out of my comfort zone feels like opening a door where is no light and you don’t see anything. You just know what you need to find, but you can’t understand how you will find it. It is a scary feeling.

This is great motivation to keep going and trying to do something different and inspiring. Thanks again for the inspiration!

Loved this article. It’s so true. I’m currently out of my comfort zone big time. And at first it was scary and overwhelming. But now I’m excited about it. Thanks for the encouraging article!

Connie, I am really enjoying your articles and glad I found your website a few weeks ago. Beautiful article and perfectly timed. Today, I am going to step out of my comfort zone and do something that I see will be wonderful for me. I have been offered to write articles for a website and I have been putting off replying to them for several days – no longer. I will accept offer and DO IT! Thank you for this reminder! Keep the articles coming – much appreciated! :)

Hi Connie/ Jess

I gotta say this article really hit home , in fact I have been thinking about it for days.

It is me to a tea! I am always the worst case scenario thinker, what if this happens or what if I cant or what if what if what if………

Upon your advice I have just booked myself an overseas holiday (never left Australia Before)

Bugga the what ifs say yes (then shit myself) and just go for it

thanks again

Hi Jess,
I am just wondering who you did your public speaking courses through – I am the same – terrified of getting up in front of an audience and would love to conquer this.
Thank you

Georgie » Hi Georgie, I did them with Carren Smith from Quantum Leadership Group: http://www.qlg.com.au/seminars/ x